Are you afraid of failing? Are you one of the many people who always say “failure is not an option”? If you answer yes to those questions keep reading I have got news for you. Thomas Edison once said that “Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up”. The key point in Mr. Edison’s statement, I believe, is the power to keep on keeping on in front of setbacks.
As you may have probably heard many times over, “success is not a destination, it is a journey”. Then it is quite natural for you to make stops and detours, on your way, under unforeseen circumstances. That is the reason why it is advisable to set your goals on rock but your plans on quick sand. Your goals to get where you want to go should not change, but the plans on how to go about it should be flexible in case something happens. Below are few ideas on why failure is important for you.
Influence is one of those key skills that you will have to master to make your journey towards success a pleasurable one. When speaking of influence we are not at all referring to the power to manipulate people. That’s not the art of influence. Influence is the ability to change other people thoughts, beliefs and actions, without the use of force or threat. It is often said in the world of business, that to be successful you need to be a leader, even if it is the leader of one person, yourself.
To lead you have to be able to influence, to persuade people, in short to make people want to do what you want them to do. That is the use of soft power, the opposite of hard power. The latter seldom works, even though it may be resorted to at times, because it is based on coercion . Your subordinates might be willing to do anything you ask of them under the threat of being fired, but they will not follow through if you are not around. Leadership is less about control and all about influence.
One of the most important skills for success, if not the most important, is the ability to get people to do what you want them to do, willingly. Some people have been paid millions of dollars for this skill, other rose to fame and power thru its mastery. No matter how knowledgeable you are in your field, you will only be average until you master this skill or better yet this art. The art of influencing others. In today’s post I would like to share some ideas that I gathered thru reading and personal experiences on this subject. This post will be in two parts. In the first one I will be addressing the importance of communication in the art of influence. In the second part, which will be posted next week, I will explore the other aspects of influencing others thru persuasion, hard power and soft power.
Unless you are living under a rock, communication is a very important aspect of your life. We can even go as far as to say that it will determine your level of success in business and in life. Since “the most important successes in life are rarely birthed alone” according to Robert Holden, author of Success Intelligence, you will need people to help you along the way in your journey. So the way you communicate with them will have a great deal of impact on your achievements.
How you react when you fail will determine how long will it be before you succeed. Failure is nothing to be afraid of if you understand that it is just a necessary step you need to take to get where you want to go. As the saying goes, the bend on the road is not the end of the road if you are willing to make turn. Without failures in your life, you will never know how tough you are or better yet how mentally tough you are.
Believe me mental toughness is what you need when the going gets hard. Mental toughness is what will get you from failure to failure with enthusiasm, and that, according to Winston Churchill, is the secret to success. It is alright to fail just don’t dwell on it, instead focus on your desires. Please watch the short clip below and you will know why (click here if you are reading this on an email)
Many years ago, a wise old King called all his wise men together and told them: “I want you to go out and compile the wisdoms of the ages, I want you to put in a bound book form so that we can leave it to posterity. The group of wise men went out and got to work, they worked really hard and came back with 12 volumes and presented to the King. After receiving the volumes, the King said: “I am confident that is the wisdom of the ages but it is too lengthy, people won’t read that. Condense it”.
The group went out again, worked hard on it and came up with one huge volume. The King, looked at it, thanked them and observed that it was still too long. The wise men came back again with a page, then a paragraph, then finally a sentence. This time the wise old king looked at the sentence and said: “That’s it, that is truly the wisdom of the ages! As soon as everybody everywhere learns this, we would have solved many of our problems”. The sentence simply states “There ain’t no free lunch”
“Love doesn’t make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.” Franklin P. Jones
In today’s post, I would like to share with you an excerpt from Og Mandino’s book The Greatest Salesman in the world. In that book there are, what’s called, 10 scrolls or declarations if you will, that I personally believe that anyone who wants something out of life should read. The truth is we are all salesmen or saleswomen, no matter what profession we are in. A teacher sells her lesson plan to her students; a parent sells good manners to her kids; a lawyer sells her case to the jury. We are all selling all the time, we can use some help to be good at it. This book is, in my humble opinion a good start. Enjoy one of the “10 scrolls”
I will greet this day with love in my heart.
For this is the greatest secret of success in all ventures. Muscle can split a shield and even destroy life but only the unseen power of love can open the hearts of men and until I master this art I will remain no more than a peddler in the market place. I will make love my greatest weapon and none on whom I call can defend against its force.
Booker T. Washington once said that success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome. Vince Lombardi, a great American football player and the former coach of the Green Bay Packers once observed that “once you agree upon the price you must pay for success, it enables you to ignore the minor hurts, the opponent’s pressure, and the temporary failures”.
Here we have two very interesting takes on success, but can we appreciate the meaning behind the words? What does success mean to you? In this post I will be sharing with you five steps you can take to create real success that will last a life time.
Definite success for yourself.
This is a very crucial step, you have to know exactly what success means to you. It is not the same for everyone, therefore you should not live by someone else’s standards neither should you abide by societal norms regarding this subject. Many are the people who look only at material belongings like cars, houses and many other mundane stuff as signs of success. Even though there is no denying that those things have the power of improving
How many times have you decided to do something and did not follow through? How many of your new year’s resolutions did you accomplish last year, or the year before? You can answer those questions however you want. The fact of the matter many people abandon their goals or break the promises they make to themselves every new year because they become uncomfortable. Comfort is a word cherished by the masses, but what they fail to realize is that success does not live in the comfort zone.
It is a natural tendency to go back to what you know, what you are familiar with when the going gets tough, even if you know that’s not what you want. Anyone can have a dream but it takes a courageous person to keep on keeping on until that dream is realized. It takes some resolve and the determination of “I am going to make it not matter what” to achieved your life long dreams, because it will not be easy, setbacks and temporary
You’ve certainly heard the phrase “no man is an island”. It is a quotation that comes from a sermon by the seventeenth century English author John Donne, where he said that “No man is an Island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the Continent, a part of the main.” In simple terms, it means that no one is self-sufficient, that human beings depend on one another.
I truly believe that no one understands this better that Dale Carnegie who spent a great deal of his work on teaching people how to get along. Today, the ability to deal with, influence, lead and arouse enthusiasm in people has a lot of influence on the position you can hold at a job or how much money you get paid.
In my last week’s post I was sharing with you the 7 reasons why you should own your own business. In this week’s post I would like to share with you an article about an interesting business, Robert Kyosaki, author of Rich Dad, Poor Dad, wrote a book about it and it is called “The business of the 21st century”. This business is direct selling, read for yourself. You can find a list of the top 100 companies in this Industry here. I am happy to say that I am involved with the number one company on that list, should you have any interest, get in touch with me thru this blog.
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