What do you say to the person in the mirror?

The most important conversations we have in our lives are those we have with ourselves. However, most people do not pay much attention to them, they often labeled them as self-talk and leave at that. Little do they know that self-talk, when it is positive, is a great tool for shaping and raising our self-esteem, it is also important for building our confidence. On the other side of the coin, saying negative things to ourselves can be also as detrimental.


In other words, we have the power to build ourselves up or break ourselves down, the choice is ours. We become what we think about, we think about what we tell ourselves. Let’s focus on the positive for, what we focus on expands. In this post I would to share a text that many of us can use as a positive self-talk. It is from Og Mandino’s “The greatest salesman in the world II”. Believe me, it would not hurt to memorize it and have this conversation with the person in the mirror from time to time, if not very often.

“I was born to succeed, not to fail.
I was born to triumph, not to bow my head in defeat.
I was born to toast victories, not to whimper and whine.
What happened to me? When did my dreams all fade into a grey mediocrity where average people applaud each other as excellent?


No person is ever so much deceived by another, as by himself. The coward is convinced that he is only being cautious and the miser always thinks he is practicing frugality. Nothing is so easy as to deceive one’s self since what we wish is always easy to believe. No one, in my life, has deceived me as much as I have.
Why do I always try to cover my small accomplishments under blankets of words that make light of my work or excuses for my lack of ability? Worst of all, I have come to believe my excuses so that I willingly sell my days for pennies while consoling myself with thoughts that things could always be worse.

No more!


It is time to study the reflection in my looking glass until I recognize that the most harmful enemy I have … is me. At last, in this magic moment […], the veil of self-deceit is beginning to lift from my eyes.
Now I know that there are three classes of people in the world. The first learn from their own experience—these are wise. The second learn from the experience of others—these are happy. The third learn neither from their own experience nor from the experience of others—these are fools.
I am not a fool. Henceforth I will stand on my own feet and my terrible crutches of self-pity and self-contempt have been cast aside forever.

Never again will I pity or belittle myself.


How foolish I was when I stood in despair, by the side of the road, and envied the successful and the wealthy as they paraded by. Are they blessed with unique skills, rare intelligence, heroic courage, enduring ambition, and other outstanding qualities that I possess not? Have they been allotted more hours, each day, in which to perform their mighty tasks? Do they have hearts full of compassion and souls overflowing with love that are different from mine? No! God plays no favorites. We were all fashioned from the same clay. […]

No longer am I one of the living dead, remaining always in the shadows of others and hiding behind my sorry apologies and alibis while the years waste away.

Never again will I pity or belittle myself.”

I hope you enjoy the text, it is a bit too long to quote all here, but I would recommend you to read the whole book, it will be well worth your time. Please share this post with whoever might benefit from it and share your comments on here.

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