Many studies have confirmed that worrying has lot of not so positive effects on our lives and can deteriorate our health. Worrying can make us tired, stressed and can speed up our aging process but most of all it can make us more prone to depression. So why many of us indulged in it? In reality, 90% of things we worry about never happen anyway! Life is not easy, that goes without saying and no one ever promised us that it was, worrying two thirds of our waking time is not going to help.
What’s bizarre is that people worry about things that they have no control of, one great example is worrying about the future. The future can never be predicted, the sooner we accepted this truth the easier our lives will become. What we can do instead, is to make practical plans about it and live by the moment. Focusing too much on what’s not yet here, can steal a lot of our precious time in the present. Another reason why we worry too much is that we seldom focus on what we have, the tendency for most of us is to dwell on what we lack.
If you want to stop worrying there are two things you must do, start thinking and thanking. Start thinking about all the good things in your life and start thanking God for it. Good things do not necessary mean all the glamorous aspect of living, but may be just the basics, the ability to walk, to see, to eat, to enjoy freedom and to have a roof over your head. When you wake up in the morning from a warm bed, be thankful and think about the homeless. When you get into the shower and turn a knob to have water pouring down, be thankful and think about the millions of people around the world who do not have that luxury. When you are served a warm meal, be thankful and think about the countless souls that spend the day or go to bed hungry.
Indeed we do have a lot to be thankful for and stop worrying. However most of the time we are not conscious of it because we focus on what we do not have. But you have to understand that no matter how much of whatever you accumulate, when you go out tomorrow, you will pass by something that does not belong to you. That simply means that you can never, ever own everything, so stop worrying and start enjoying what you’ve got. Dale Carnegie asked some poignant questions in his book How to stop worrying and start living that I want to share here with you: “Would you sell both of your eyes for a billion dollars? What would you take for your two legs? Your hands? Your hearing? Your children? Your family” If you think about those questions you know that you will not sell what you have for the fortune of Bill Gates or Warren Buffet or anyone for that matter.
Whatever problem or situation, or person challenge you are facing right now, know this: you are bigger than that, you are still alive. Remind yourself of the words of Lao Tsu (a great philosopher of ancient China), that a good friend of mine reminded me last week, “This also will pass” I would to like to close this post with the serenity prayer that most of you already know. “God grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the Courage to change the things I can change and the Wisdom to know the difference!” Amen!
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